counterpart of `--s-wr-sz` which existed already
the default (256 KiB) appears optimal in the most popular scenario
(linux host with storage on local physical disk, usually NVMe)
was previously 32 KiB, so large uploads should now use 17% less CPU
also adds sanchecks for values of `--iobuf`, `--s-rd-sz`, `--s-wr-sz`
also adds file-overwrite feature for multipart posts